so I just kissed him briefly and then turned my head away. Based on my photos alone, I think I could attract the kinds of men who interest me — creative, unconventional, fun loving, my age or a little younger — but I was afraid “45” would scare them off. but I’m not looking for a relationship at this point, anyway. I’ve been perusing the website, clicking on random profiles if their photos catch my fancy. “I’d like one of these and one of these and one of these…” Here’s a funny thing.Why is it that when I’m only looking to date casually, nearly all the men who pique my interest are looking for a longterm relationship? I have to tell you, it’s kind-of a scary place to be. I wonder if it would be too weird for them, or for me. ), but I don’t think I’m cut out for the “friends with benefits” type situation. I know it doesn’t carry the stigma that it used to and it’s probably worth considering, but I feel very ambivalent.And that was a good thing because I probably wouldn’t have recognized him.The pictures on his dating profile were at least a decade out of date, and he’s gotten paunchier and grayer since they were taken. I wasn’t at all attracted to him in person, and that’s a shame because the conversation was fantastic.
Maybe you have never married or fully committed to a relationship or have been in relationships that go nowhere…
I think he could be a good friend, if he’s willing to just be friends.
But I’d catch a look in his eyes now and then that let me know he was definitely more interested/attracted than I was. My pictures are all current.) We talked for 2.5 hours about film, literature, politics and philosophy.
The rest of his lengthy response also indicates that he’s neurotic and probably at least a bit agorophobic, so I feel I’ve dodged a bullet there. He’s part of my larger social circle and we’ve seen each other at functions but don’t really know each other.
I think he’s kinda sexy, so when he suggested coffee I was hoping it was a date. Although he did buy me a soy latte, it was quickly apparent that in his mind it was just coffee with a friend. The conversation was good and so was the latte, so I can’t really complain. Guy friends are great, and I’m glad to have them, but it’s been almost a year since I’ve had sex or even a real kiss.