One is not simply left to their own devices when it comes to love and marriage. where basically, no one is allowed to touch you until you’re married.
I often liken the South Indian approach to dating to Georgian Britain. It is no wonder then that, when it comes to the world of dating, the Modern Muslim is left rather flummoxed.
For the record, I personally think this is the wrong approach and, on reflection, so does my mum.
There is so much value in having friends of the opposite sex and, in turn, dating before settling down, if not just as an exercise to learn more about yourself.
I think a growing number of modern Muslims experience something synonymous in terms of their relationship with Islam.
There is a clearly defined and unfaltering respect there, but quite a liberal approach in terms of everyday observance.
So, the traditional Pakistani and Muslim approach to marriage was never going to work for me.
You may say that I am as western as they come but I am still so proud of my heritage and the culture and tradition my parents brought me up in.
In terms of religion, you can probably guess by now that I am incredibly liberal.
I wanted the big, sweeping love story, star-crossed lovers, Romeo and Juliet of it all (without the double suicide at the end, obviously).
The trouble is, I went to an all girls private school and wasn’t allowed to date when I was younger or even have male friends really.